What to Include in a Personalized Wedding Song

When you order a custom wedding song, the magic happens in the details. The songwriter can only work with what you provide, so the more specific and personal your input, the more meaningful your song will be. Here's a complete guide to gathering the stories that will become your lyrics.

Your Origin Story

How You Met

This is the foundation of your love story. Think beyond just the facts:

• Where exactly did you meet? (The coffee shop on 5th, your friend Rachel's party, the dating app where you almost swiped left)
• What was your first impression? Were you wrong about it?
• Who made the first move?
• What made you want to see them again?

Example: "We matched on an app, I almost didn't message, but something about your photo with that ridiculous hat made me laugh."

The First Date

First dates are full of songworthy details:

• Where did you go?
• Were you nervous? Did anything go wrong?
• What did you talk about for hours?
• When did you know you wanted a second date?

When You Knew

There's usually a moment when you realized this was different. Maybe it was:

• The way they handled a crisis
• Meeting their family
• A trip you took together
• Something small that revealed their character

The Proposal

If you're already engaged, this is prime material:

• Who proposed and how?
• Was it a surprise or did you both know it was coming?
• Where did it happen?
• What did you say? What did they say?
• Any funny mishaps? (Ring fell down a drain? Wrong knee?)

Inside Jokes and Nicknames

These are gold for songwriters. The best custom songs include references that make the couple laugh because only they truly understand.

Think about:

• Silly nicknames you call each other
• Running jokes that never get old
• Phrases you quote to each other
• That one story you always tell at parties

Don't worry if it seems too "inside" to include. A skilled songwriter can reference these in ways that feel personal to you but still make sense to others.

Shared Experiences

Travels Together

Trips create lasting memories:

• Your first trip together
• A place that's special to you both
• An adventure that tested you
• Where you want to go together someday

Challenges You've Overcome

Sometimes the hardest times make the best verses:

• Long distance periods
• Family challenges you faced together
• Career changes or moves
• How you supported each other through difficulty

Everyday Moments

Often the most touching lyrics come from ordinary life:

• Sunday morning routines
• The way they make your coffee
• Cooking together (or one of you cooking while the other "supervises")
• Netflix shows you binged together
• The comfortable silences

Who They Are

Describe your partner's personality and what you love about them:

• Their laugh (Is it loud? Contagious?)
• How they treat others
• Their quirks that drive you crazy but you wouldn't change
• What makes them different from everyone else
• How they've made you a better person

Looking Forward

Wedding songs often include hopes for the future:

• What you're most excited about for married life
• Dreams you share
• The kind of home/family you want to build
• Growing old together

Practical Considerations

Names and Pronunciation

Provide the correct spelling and pronunciation of:

• Both your names
• Nicknames
• Any place names that might be included

Music Style

Think about what genre feels right:

• Romantic ballad
• Upbeat pop
• Acoustic folk
• R&B/Soul
• Something that matches your wedding vibe

Tone

Should the song be:

• Emotional and tear-inducing?
• Fun and danceable?
• A mix of both?
• Funny with heartfelt moments?

What to Skip

A few things generally don't work well in wedding songs:

• Negative stories about exes
• Too many names (stick to 1-2 beyond your own)
• Details that might embarrass someone at the wedding
• Anything you wouldn't want your grandmother to hear

The More, The Better

When in doubt, share more rather than less. A good songwriter will select the details that work best musically and emotionally. They can't include what they don't know.

Write freely. Don't worry about being a good writer yourself. Just tell your story as if you're talking to a friend, and let the songwriter turn it into lyrics.